It is perfectly fine, even with a planned pregnancy, to have mixed feelings. Pregnancy is such a dramatic experience at all levels, mainly because you have so many different emotions during it. These feelings vary for each woman and depend very much on her life experience and any emotional ‘baggage’ she might have. But all this is normal and experienced by every pregnant woman.
In truth, most women have a very simplistic and idealistic view of the perfect pregnancy and there is little room for complaint in case it looks like wishful thinking.
Most pregnancies are very turbulent, especially in the beginning. You experience a cocktail of emotions, which are exacerbated by the hormonal changes that occur. Every woman must first mentally deal with the huge change the pregnancy represents. There is the fear of change, concerns regarding money; the practical details. Then the worry about the birth itself and perhaps a little fear about what life will be like with a child. Mourning the old life as a “free” adult is common but at the same time there is joy and excitement about having a baby and deep fulfillment. Physical changes such as fatigue and the changes to your body also make emotional demands. Then there is the feeling that perhaps it was a mistake and as some women feel, that something strange is happening to them, that the baby is robbing them of something or that they are no longer in control of their own lives.
The good news is that most of the emotional chaos that you might feel finishes after the first three months of pregnancy. Then the whole situation becomes more relaxed and you feel comfortable and relaxed about the pregnancy. Now and again of course, another challenge arises or some unresolved issues remain but you are more ready to deal with them.
